Keepsake box and a violence-free Christmas

At last week's end of year work breakup and Christmas outing with work colleagues, we had a 'secret Santa' event whereby you draw out another colleagues name (from a hat) a few weeks ahead and then you are to buy something to the value of $10. A neat friend bought me a 'tea cupboard' which I then transformed into a keepsake box.

It reminds me this Christmas season about some of the families who won't be having a very merry Christmas. I remember a few years ago, I volunteered with the Salvation Army (Christian charity organisation) to support a family whom had gone through a lot of difficulties. I was to assist and 'mentor' of sorts. We were given Christmas gifts to share with them and we'd share about our lives. I particularly got to know the mother well.

Over the course of a year, I learnt a lot about how alcohol and drugs, poverty through choices and the limits of having no qualifications had taken a toll on her family. Unlike the nice keepsake box that I had symbolizing beautiful memories of my life, her's in contrast seemed shattered by abuse, neglect and trauma yet she was such a beautiful women who needed a lot of support.

As time went on, I discovered that some families were well known to the police during Christmas season for violence and it's sad to think that children were often a witness to it. Even swearing to a partner/spouse which is often caused by anger, to intimidate and control a situation in order to instigate fear should not be tolerated and is a form of psychological abuse/violence. This Christmas season may it be violence free for many especially where children are concerned.

Christmas cards, kit set furniture and trust

This year with all the flurry and end of year work party breakups (3 weeks off work) and a family crisis, I forgot all about giving out Christmas cards to fellow colleagues at work and for my children to give out to their friends. It's like a ritual 'thank you card' to people for sharing a part of your life during the year and similar to gift giving.

But one thing I have enjoyed is taking time out to assemble a kitset of drawers which I've been needing for a while. I like the idea of being able to create something (as if I've got carpentry skills) from a box although it does take a bit of time, patience and the art of translating instructions into actions. I find it very stimulating, challenging with neat rewards at the end of the ordeal.

It reminds me, in this Christmas period, about trust. It took me a long time to assemble the set of drawers and often it takes people a long time to build trust between friends. It's a strong character trait to be a trustworthy person as a wisdom choice about having integrity. Sadly this is lacking in today's society of 'white lies' and compromise in doing things without fear of taking responsibility.

Children on the other hand can trust blindly, hence the warning for 'stranger danger'. That's why we should monitor our children's websites and between spouses/partners it's about freely sharing Facebook passwords without having to delete anything. Trust goes a long way and with it we can gain more respect, love and people will honour you for it especially children.

Favourite Christmas Carols over the years

This still remains as one of my favourite Christmas Carols that I learnt to sing in our church youth choir as a teenager and when we would go out carolling in 2 hired buses till after midnight on Christmas Eve to church members houses and the neighbours would come along to listen.

My other favourite Christmas carols are: "Away in a Manager", "Oh come all ye faithful", "Oh little town of Bethlehem" and "Joy to the world". I remember my parents had a Jim Reeves casette tape that they would play in the car and I got to know all of his renditions as well.

It was also interesting to listen to the backgrounds of many of the Christmas carols on Radio Rhema (NZ's National Christian radio station) that explained how they came about and the countries that they originated from.

I hope that our children in schools and churches all over the world are still learning Christmas carols as they have become a special part of the festive season and a timely reminder of the real reason for the season ie. the birth of Christ and not so much about Santa and his elves, Christmas shopping and Christmas feasting. It's really about God gifting us with the birth of His son to change our lives for good.

P.S. I have a poll that you are most welcome to enter your experiences on too.

A second prize giving winner - overcoming obstacles

Last night was another winner for our middle child having received awards that included a certificate for top literacy prize in her class with a book prize and a $ voucher. Congratulations my dear, you have overcome obstacles and still achieved. May God bless you in your journey ahead.

Teachers have a lot of influence on a child's achievement (both +ve and -ve) which is often underestimated. Having been a secondary school English teacher myself, it takes a lot of determination for a student to succeed despite this. I learnt this through my own experience in education in Mangere where I had a mix of both inspirational teachers and lazy, couldn't-care-less self-centred teachers who really didn't bother to teach students well.

Although I wasn't the 'best' teacher when I first started in my teaching career, I know that I certainly tried to make a positive difference and I especially observed this when I became a teacher for a few years and witnessed office politics and teachers behaving badly in and out of the classroom. One of the main reasons I stayed clear of staff rooms and why I am very interested in my children's educational environment.

Today, I am very involved in my children's education and keep abreast of what they are experiencing in the classroom in daily interacting with them in conversations about how their day went. I try not to 'rescue' them and allow leeway in letting them make their own decisions, mistakes (sometimes) and to explore their ideas. Our two elder children have achieved well, thus far, and we are thankful to God. Malo le taumafai.

Academic Achievement Awards - Generational Inspirations

Last night we attended our eldest child's prizegiving and we were pleasantly surprised that she achieved the academic award for her year with a trophy and book prize by Bear Grylls (a favourite sporting author of mine) with an accompanying certificate and we gave her a box of chocolates.

It took me back to the times when my parents encouraged us to do well in school, to listen to the teacher and do what they say. To my folks, education was one of the keys to achieving well in life after loving your God, your family and serving as well as being humble. They gave and accepted no excuses and provided for us an environment whereby we were able to excel if we wanted to.

Our eldest deserves the accolades as I observed the late nights, discussing ideas and planning ahead. The learning programme that is project based at the school definitely sets up the individual to learn for a life time with emphasis on research, self directed learning and time management. These are some of the aspects that I encourage students with at the degree level and that she is learning.

Well done, eldest one, may you continue to learn, to mature and to succeed in your endeavours to add to the things that my parents taught me, that I now teach you, and that we hope will succeed from generation to generation. Ia manuia.

There's no time like the present...

Today I went to work in my jandals, I know typical Samoan (in Samoa it's perfectly fine) and got some wonderful news that one of the Year 3 Bachelor of Social work students that I had been supporting had passed her oral presentation exams, handed in her last essays and is set for graduation next year. Her story is simply inspirational.

This is absolutely amazing as (I know she won't mind me sharing her story) I met her as a Certificate of Social services, level 4 student some 3+ years ago. She was accepted into the degree programme and was a high performing student and was expected to cruise through this year being her last with sights set on graduation.

During the year, she'd ask me to check her essays and they were consistently on track, however, she had been experiencing headaches and thought it was migraines until she was sent to the hospital in August and was diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer in her brain that needed urgent treatment. I was surprised to see her in September after her surgery looking very different.

Her radiation and treatments started and her hair fell out but she was fiercely determined to complete her degree. In her final presentation she taught me about some of the tools that she had learned: about having karakia (Maori word for prayer) every morning and evening; about having a daily 'gratitude' journal, a positive frame of mind and she smiled throughout her journey. She taught me that today is a present a gift to be cherished.

Christmas to come with 2015 a year of Harvest

Only a couple more weeks to Christmas and already it's at a frenetic pace since last week with so much to do. This week I have to attend three school prizegivings, a school Xmas break up, an end of year concert with lots in between and hoping to have a relaxful weekend at the end of it all.

Am also considering my study pathway for next year with ideas earlier on a 1 year Diploma of Publishing course of study which in fact costs the same as a Masters 1 year course i.e. a Master in Educational Leadership which I am now considering or even a MPh which is a 1 year Master in Philosophy studying a subject in your chosen field.



Still not sure but contemplating what the year ahead will bring with various plans yet just trusting that God will show me the correct path to take. Am looking forward ahead to 2015 and the promises that has been said about a 'year of harvest.'

Niece's wedding at 'Castaways' Waiuku

Niece's wedding at 'Castaways' Waiuku

Niece walks down the aisle with black sand beach in the background

Yesterday my family attended the wedding of my neice and her beau at 'Castaways' in Waiuku just a 45 minute drive out into rural Auckland. It was a beautiful day for her family and friends at the cliff top wedding and we had to make sure that our little one didn't run off past the harekeke (flax bushes) with its sheer drop onto the black sand beach below.

One thing I've learnt about weddings over the years is that much planning, fanfare and $ are spent on the wedding day but the actual real work for the couple begins the day after when the marriage begins and especially after the honeymoon ends.

I love weddings and have happily made silk wedding bouquets and flower arrangements over the years, however, I think it's probably one of the most important vows that an individual can make to another and especially to God about living faithfully throughout the turmoils that life can throw.

I wish this couple the best for their future and trust that they will remain strong in their commitment to be faithful to each other and especially in their commitment and vow to God. May any curses be nullified, as the pastor prayed and "ia fua tele le nui" (may there be many young coconuts - literal Samoan saying) which means may they be blessed with many children.

Poem "Little Runner" by T Fritz Filisi

Our little runner - who likes to run where others walk

Sharing a neat poem written by my husband Fritz about our little rocket.

PANMURE BASIN LITTLE RUNNER

by T Fritz Filisi (c) 2014

You sing so beautifully

carefree and speak of amazing encounters

communicate clearly

speak of love and forgiveness

hugs and kisses

sorry for the happenings
three wonderful years of growth

laughter and joy are your ways

tonight you inspire us once again

songs of freedom fill your heart

swing, slide, the castle and sand

you want more so you explore

around the basin you walk

three years from birth till now

you want to run ahead of everyone

you say you are a winner

you say you will never give up

and you ran and made it to the first stop

from the mouth of a baby comes encouragement

we were amazed at your achievement

you walk and run the talk

doer of inspiring words

you leave your footprints in our hearts

and we marvel at your awesomeness

unique in every way

may you be nurtured in growth and admiration

when in your full potential in maturity will not be an end

but inspire us all to follow a trend

your honesty is duly noted

when you were tired you stop and want a free ride

but then you see the end product

the park is just around the corner

you said you will never give up

you said you are a winner

you ran all the way and claimed your spot

I thought what a lesson to learn

some just need to see a goal and summon more strength

others just need to talk and walk

one step, two step until you reach the end

yes you are a winner

yes you never give up

talk walk run

thank you for reminding us how it is done

I treasure your words of wisdom

we are blessed to have you my little friend

you have inspired us to keep on keeping on

a winner will never give up till the end

He Waka Hiringa - Masters Exhibition

We say farewell today to Dr Manulani Meyer who leaves Te Wananga o Aotearoa back to the shores of her home in the Islands of Hawaii. Going to miss her especially as she had already accepted to be one of my PhD supervisors but hope to keep in touch with her.

This particular Masters programme is the first of its kind in the world and upholds the importance of indigenous knowledge much of which has become lost and only found in museums, old photos and books where current indigenous generations are no longer the holders of the knowledge etc.

I thank God for allowing me the privilege of learning and accessing much knowlege about old Samoa in my first Masters thesis (Geography) through my parents and grandmother and some of the elders who have since passed on. I hope that my writings soon to be published, will reflect some of that knowlege to future generations.

Weetbix "Tryathlon" Champions

A pic with World Champion Shotput athlete Valerie Adams

Yesterday my children competed in the 'Weetbix Tryathlon' in Manukau which was a 50 - 75m swim, 8km bike and run. Both finished their respective races and one even got to have a pic with Valerie Adams (albeit reluctantly - rather shy).

My only claim to fame with Valerie Adams, is that we both went to the same high school of Nga Tapuwae College and were both brought up in Mangere. She has gone on to become a champion athlete, is currently the Sportsperson of the year for Manukau (13th year running) and again a World Shotput champion medal/cup winner (7th year). She was in tip top shape and very supportive of the event.

It would be neat to see more Pasifika/Maori students attending such events as there were many palagi but fewer of our students/parents but I think that it will grow with many now seeing the importance of keeping not only our minds learning but also spirit/soul and body fit, it will only increase in future participation. Go our champions!

Crafts and Creativity runs in the family

My creative child's lil loombands

My special lil gift

These are some of my creative child's recent creations with loombands that swept through as a craze earlier in the year. There are a couple of Aerials (mermaids) and a Rapunzel (with the long golden yellow hair). The one on my purse was gifted to me and is shown to my friends with pride.

When I reflect upon the creativity gene in my family it definitely runs from mum and growing up I remember watching her create amazingly tasty meals, beautiful baking and she could make lovely dresses and even our school uniforms. Amazing on precision and the creativity has been passed on to the 3 of us.

My year older sister Norma (gifted with the painting I gave her) and her children. You can check out her blog on: www.normatika.com  and my younger sister who is gifted at line drawings and then myself and my children.

'Love bears, believes, hopes, endures...'

Got so inspired with a gift that I gave to my sister that I painted one for my family along the same lines but with a Christmas feel to it. I've just shortened the biblical verse of I Corinthians 13: 7 which was incorporated into our Fiji wedding ceremony years ago by our officiating minister the late Rev Kenape Faletoese.

Can't believe that it's Christmas in just 3 weeks and looking forward to the break away from work and spending time with my family. Have already plans for relaxing with the family, with painting and writing some more in the mix.

This week in particular will be busy with supporting family members in the 'Weetbix Tryathlon', a violin recital, a wedding to attend and much, much more. I also made a kiwifruit cake from my mum's recipes years ago and the family really liked it with lemon cream cheese frosting that I've had requests to make it up again and then will post up a pic and the recipe...